Mind + Body Alignment

What Is a Normal Life?

How Do We Define Normal?

What is a normal life? We’re told from a young age what the steps are in life that will make us responsible, happy adults. Go to school, graduate high school, go to college, graduate college, get a good job, get married, have kids…and on it goes. As if life is supposed to just be this one extensive checklist of things to do, and then we’re taught to believe that doing these things will make us happy.

That you made it in life. Not the case for everyone. Not everyone is wired the same, and that is OK. That’s what makes this world so exciting and unique. We are not all here to walk down the same path. From my perspective, if we go through life and follow what others think we should be doing, we will never be fully fulfilled. The excitement of the new job, serious relationship, that promotion starts to wear off.

How Do We Feel Fulfilled In Life?

We feel fulfilled and accomplished from the excitement of those around us, but as time goes on and you are the one sitting in that seat, sitting in your truth, reality sets in. We blame it on work. We blame it on the other person. We blame it on classes being too hard. But the reality is that if you are not truly happy and not living your truth, you won’t feel fulfilled, ever. The job can change, and the relationship can change, but if the path you are walking on is still the same at its core, you’re longing for something more will never cease. But going off the beaten road can often lead to judgment and ridicule.

So, what do we do then? We learn to love ourselves, knowing that some won’t understand. We have to learn to be so sure of ourselves that the voices of others’ judgments don’t guide us. And this is often the hardest thing to remember. Something I am still working on, and I don’t think it will ever be something that will be fully finished. Each day we have to fight to be who we are at our core.

Living in fear or living in contentment is what we know. You know, the “everything’s fine, I’m fine” line we continue to say, not only to ourselves but to those around us. Knowing all too well that it’s complete bullshit. It is what is more manageable than facing fear. We only have this one life, don’t sit on it.

You Are In Control Of Your Destiny

I have spent most of my life following what I thought would make everyone happy, what I knew people would approve of. Looking for that pat on the back, as if somehow it was a show of love. You know what I have learned. Those who genuinely love you let you be you. Have crazy ideas and tell you to go for it. Congratulate you for following your dreams even if they don’t understand it, or it’s not their dream. Unconditional love is letting each one of us find our normal AND let us live in our normal. So don’t be afraid to go find your normal or at least use that fear to fuel the fire of your soul.

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Wishing you love, light and inner peace babes ✌🌈✨💜

What Is a Normal Life?


  • Megan

    This is so interetsing because I was just thinking about what is “normal,” and realize that when you really get to know someone, there really isn’t one universal definition. Everyone is perfect in their way!

  • Holly B

    Beautifully written post! When people have been saying I can’t wait until things get back to normal I have been thinking…. What is your normal and embracing where we are now reminds me when I was young!

  • Stephanie

    Although I always marched to a different drum, it has not been until now – in my 40’s – that I am finally willing to admit that what makes me happy isn’t always the same as what makes others happy. And that’s okay, and there is nothing wrong with being who you are. I wish more people would embrace the ideas you expressed here! Thank you for the reminders and for your mindset.

  • Keirsten

    I can relate to this so much! While I support and love my friends and family that live their lives in a more traditional sense, I never saw my future as they did. I never wanted children, just fur babies, I didn’t want to get married but I ended up eloping in Vegas, I didn’t want to change my last name, I wanted to work in the arts etc.
    Everyone can have a life filled with love and feel very fulfilled, it just doesn’t have to look or sound like everyone else’s. Thanks for sharing this 💜

  • Alicia

    I have learned that true happiness comes from contentment with who I am and who God created me to be. Anything else will lead to comparison and disappointment. God sees me as his masterpiece. <3
    Thanks for sharing!

  • Marianne

    Teaching my kids how to be themselves and not conform, is something we talk about all the time. My daughter has anxiety about fitting in, and whether people are judging her. Its a struggle, but such an important lesson to learn as soon as possible!

  • Lisa Manderino

    We all have our own paths and self care is part of succeeding. Doing what we need to do and setting goals to make ourselves happy.

  • Emi Sorensen

    Living your truth is the most important thing you can do. I’ve had to learn this over time AND accept others for the truths they’re living. That isn’t always easy though, especially when they are loved ones and you worry about them.

  • Larissa Li

    Oh yeah. Lived pleasing others for 35 years successful and depressed. Then with the help of God found myself and had courage to stay this way. Had a few fights with close people. Had to cut some relationships with the ones that neither understand nor respect. No regrets. Hardest and the best decision ever.

    Happy! Happy! Happy! And let others have their happiness.

  • Tiffany

    This! My parents didn’t understand that I went into a field of low pay because of my passion and desire to make a difference. Now they don’t understand my desire to work for myself so I can make a difference 😂

  • Chelsea

    Love this. I’ve always questioned “normal” probably because I never felt like I fit into “normal”. It used to bother me. Now, I love the parts of me that make me “different” because when we find someone else who is like us in that area, it creates a unique bond. Because not everyone has that special trait, experience or opinion. 🙂

  • Kristin

    Sucha great topic. There is really no such thing as normal! We are all so unique in our own ways. I try to teach this to my kids as society tries to modl us into “normal” so early! I always tell them…it’s better to be weird!!

  • Suzan

    I like to think of life as “abby-normal”. We can all adjust and soon it will seem normal with repetition. If you continue to look backwards, how can we be ready for the now?

  • Sabrina DeWalt

    So true! We set off on an unconventional life seven months ago. Most of the people in our lives are our cheerleaders. We have also heard negative comments about our new lifestyle, but those mostly come from people who are not part of our inner circle and who do not understand what and why we choose to live this lifestyle. We’ve had well-meaning people tell us that we need to make “sacrifices” to live a normal life. Who needs normal? We love our life.

  • Cindy Moore

    I so agree with this post! It took me many years to claim my life as my own and stop trying to live the life other people expected me to live. Such a freeing moment, to realize you must be absolutely who you are.

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